ABOUT THE BOCAS METHOD
We cannot change what we don’t understand. Our behaviors – from what we do when we first wake up, to how we show up in our most stressful moments—demonstrate this truth. We cannot change behavior that we don’t understand.
Why do we act the way we do? How is it that some folks are able to show up to stressful situations as the best version of themselves, while others fall into reactionary behaviors? How is it that some people are better equipped to navigate tough moments in life?
By understanding and honoring your nervous system’s unique response to stress, you unlock your ability to build better habits, lead with empathy, communicate with clarity, and become an agent of transformative change in your life, in your community, and in the world.
BEHAVIOR IS INFORMED BY THE AUTONOMIC NERVOUS SYSTEM
Every way we respond to stress – both consciously and subconsciously – is informed by the autonomic nervous system. This system is carefully calibrated. It is informed by a lifetime of experience, generations of evolutionary knowledge, and our unique, individual nature.
It has been fine-tuned throughout human evolution, building a hierarchal structure that informs our individual responses to stress. It is designed to keep us safe. It is designed to keep our species safe. It is bigger than our individual choices, and yet it is a highly personalized response.
We are talking about Polyvagal Theory – the scientific concept of the relationship between the autonomic nervous system and our most fundamental needs for safety and connection. This theory, developed by Stephen Porges, outlines the relationship between our behaviors and our biology. Within Polyvagal Theory exists the concept of Autonomic Balance – that sweet spot in which both the sympathetic and the parasympathetic branches of the autonomic nervous system exert equal influence. In this state, our bodies and our brains achieve a sort of equilibrium. A person feels a sense of calm control. Their ventral vagal pathways are activated, allowing them to access both parts of their autonomic nervous system. In this state, we feel safe. In this state, our nervous systems are regulated. We’re ready. We’re in control.
But how do we get there?
FOUR PILLARS. FIVE STEPS. ENDLESS POSSIBILITIES
Too often, we find ourselves operating on auto-pilot when we encounter stress. We fall into old habits. We don’t show up as our best selves. We close ourselves off from connection. We limit our choice.
The Bocas Method recognizes and honors biology’s connection to human behavior. It creates a tangible approach to build upon the scientific work of Stephen Porges, and create actionable steps to effect real, lasting, positive change. The Bocas Method builds skills that any person can access. The four pillars of this approach will give you the tools to unlock your ability to build better habits, lead with empathy, communicate with clarity, and become an agent of transformative change in your life, in your community, and in the world.
THE FOUR PILLARS
THE DANDELION EFFECT
THE GOLDILOCKS PRINCIPLE
THE BEAUTY OF THE PAUSE
THE DANCE OF THE NERVOUS SYSTEM